10 Myths When it Comes to Boudoir Photography

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How much do you know about boudoir photography? Yes, we see the images of gorgeous women in lingerie or in pin-up fashion, but do you know more than this? In the modern era, boudoir photography has evolved into a movement championing women's empowerment, liberation, and independence. It is continually moving past its historical stigmas. There is a growing separation from its origin of sexual intrigue to vulnerability, and showing natural beauty.

In this latter aspect, the genre actually holds true to the intentions of capturing real women, authentically and void of social expectations. This is where we start debunking the myths. Boudoir photography has become popular due to that universal connection of womanhood and freedom. Despite this, just like in its early beginnings, there are still some things that are misunderstood, misconstrued, and simply untrue.

It’s about being sexy

Sure, you can be as sexy as you want with boudoir photography. There are plenty who enjoy that feeling of being sexy because during their daily lives they can’t; however, it’s not always and only about being sexy. Being sexy is great, but sometimes an alternative perspective of femininity is desired. Some prefer simply being beautiful or cute and playful. It comes down to whatever suits the individual’s personality more.

You’re too old

There is no so such thing! I have worked with various ages, and, for this style, as long as you are 18 years old and up, you can get behind the lens for a boudoir session. At any age, there can be a milestone met, an achievement to celebrate, a desire to feel beautiful and a moment to feel free.

You can’t be this, this and this...

People love putting a label on things, and while it can be helpful, sometimes it can be quite damaging. Single mom, religious, scared, obese. There are many labels that can sometimes hold us back from doing the things that we want, but it doesn’t matter who you are, what you do, or what you believe. As long as you want to do it, you can! It’s as easy as that.

Boudoir photographers are creeps

The truth is that anyone can be a creep; so, it’s important to fully vet your photographer. True boudoir photographers will do their utmost to make sure you have everything you need during your session and maintain an air of professionalism through its entirety. Use discernment and be cautious during your session. Your session should feel comfortable and flow easily like a breeze, be a party, or a relaxation zone. If anything doesn’t feel right, get out of there!

It has to be nude

Not at all! You can wear as much or as little as you want. There are no clothing rules when it comes to boudoir. Clothing is based on what the desired look or composition is. I always like clean looks, so neutral intimates are safe. Pair a tee or white collared shirt with jeans. It’s also nice to have fun and be adventurous. Dress up in your favorite cosplay or go a bit vintage with corsets and stockings. Dress however you feel.

Boudoir is only shot in the bedroom

While “boudoir” is French for a woman’s bedroom, dressing room, or private room, you are not restricted to this setting alone. You can shoot anywhere inside, the kitchen, dining room, or garage! Move your set outside for an explorative session through woods, along creeks, or even down a snowy path. As a Florida native, one of my favorite set moves is to our beautiful beaches and gardens.

You have to be a size 2

The average woman is a size 16. It makes absolutely no sense to only shoot women who are a size 2. The same also goes for men, all of whom are not a waist size 32. Size does not matter when it comes to boudoir photography. It does not inhibit a session nor make it any easier or challenging based on size. In fact, nothing different really needs to be done from set to lighting to posing. All sessions should be done in consideration of what shows the subject in the best way.

It’s only for women

Nope. As can be inferred from above, when considering size, men also take boudoir, or “dudoir” sessions. This is not as stigmatized as boudoir and not nearly as recognized.

You must wear lingerie

Once again, no. Just like you do not have to be nude, you do not have to wear lingerie. A date night dress, comfy sweater, or long t-shirt will do just fine. In fact, anything can work. You wear whatever makes you feel glamorous, sexy, cute, empowered... yourself.

It’s not creative

Boudoir photography can get incredibly creative. The only limitation is the imagination. Change things up from the composition, design, props, location, and more.