"People ask me, 'Why are you single? You're attractive, intelligent and creative.' My reply is 'I'm overqualified.'"
Another Valentine’s Day has come, and to all the happy couples, first congratulations and second, enjoy the celebration. It is a day shrouded with happiness, love, and anticipation. It can be beautiful, but if expectations are not met, the day can turn completely sour. As, for some, it already is.
We wouldn’t want to acknowledge any bitterness for Valentine’s Day, but it happens because for any single person it is just another day. Another day that comes with those nit-picking questions: “You don’t have a date?” “How long have you been single?” “When are you going to get a boyfriend?” “Aren’t you lonely?” When those questions come, you're left to your own thoughts unable to help thinking “yea… this sucks.”
So, the challenge is to twist the sourness and bitterness around. It’s not a matter of taking a word and changing the meaning. Single is single, but let’s take away the negative connotations of being single, especially around this day. Do singleness right.
It’s not that I’m single or alone, I’m simply overqualified.
I am overqualified to settle for anything less than what I want and deserve. I am overqualified to be taken to Steak ‘n Shake instead of Vic & Anthony’s Steakhouse. I am overqualified to play games. I am overqualified to not have my own hustle. I am overqualified to subject myself to someone else’s standards. I am overqualified to not be treated like the queen I am, who comes with her own kingdom. I am overqualified to dim my shine, so someone else can look good. I am over qualified to be with anyone who can’t treat me better than myself or my father. I am overqualified to not value wisdom. I am overqualified to be expected to handle someone else’s drama. I am overqualified to be dependent on someone else. I am over qualified to not be drop dead gorgeous and intelligent. I am overqualified to not have my own dreams and ambitions. I am overqualified to be an object or trophy. I am overqualified to subject myself to abuse and neglect. I am overqualified to not work in patience while waiting. I am overqualified to not feel loved and secure. I am overqualified to not have my own identity. I am overqualified to not know my self-worth. I am overqualified to settle for anything less than what God has for me.
Don’t wallow in singleness, but embrace the opportunity for growth and self-development. There is purpose behind the singleness, strength behind the singleness. It is in this time that wealth is built up, not merely physical wealth, but spiritual, emotional, mental and character wealth.
There is no time to be held back when building for the future. The independence achieved through singleness is beautiful because our future partner can be rest assured the relationship is not out of lack. I don’t need anything from you. I just want to be with you.
So the next time, someone questions your singleness, just let them know… you’re overqualified.